Apologising is an Adult business. It means acknowledging you got something wrong - get used to it, humans have about a 20% error rate so polish up your apologies to maintain good relationships and keep your friends.
道歉是成年人做的事情。道歉意味着你承认所犯的错误——要习惯承认错误，人类大约有20%的出错率，所以加强道歉可以维持一段良好的关系，维系你的友情。
Remember it is never too late to apologise and can often reinstate good relations with people you may have believed were lost to you. Ultimately people who do not apologise are often resented and can be regarded as “small” people.
记住不要等到无法挽回才道歉，道歉常常能与那些你以为失去的朋友恢复最初的亲密关系。最后，那些不道歉的人常常会被人怨恨，并且被视为“小人”。
Accepting an apology is also important. 接受道歉也是很重要的一部分。
“我告诉过你这样做不对……你不应该那样做/那样说。”这可不是一个接受道歉的好方式——这是你身上批评型父母的特质，这样做会阻止他人再次向你道歉。“谢谢你，我接受你的道歉”是一个很好的回答，适用于各方面的道歉，并且能够显示出对他人勇于承认错误的赞赏——换句话说，你的行为很像一个成年人。
This will also encourage an open atmosphere where people are allowed to get things wrong, learn by their mistakes, apologise and move on!
这会鼓励建设一个开放的氛围，人们在这里允许犯错误，他们将从自己的错误中学习经验，向他人致歉然后继续前行！
在处理孩子的问题时，这一点特别重要。
You gain nothing from apportioning blame or being self-righteous once someone has apologised, apart from a bucket load of resentment.
当有人道歉时，追究他人责任或以正义者自居除了能攒一肚子气之外，得不到丝毫好处。
Learn to accept and give apologies and your life will improve dramatically.
学习接受道歉和主动道歉，你的生活将会得到极大的改善。
Teach your children this life skill and if you’ve already mastered it - give yourself a pat on the back!
教会孩子这一项生活技巧，如果你已经掌握的话——请给自己一个表扬！
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发表于 2015-6-10 11:07:33
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