1. Parents can lend support via keeping the topic open for discussion, not merely delivering a sermon about being prepared, or being over vigilant for anxiety. 父母们可以给予支持,保持话题开放式的讨论,而不仅仅在准备一事上给出冗长的教训,或者过度警惕焦虑。
Point out the “Back to School” ads, posters and pop-ups as a sign that the whole community loves this time of year. Everyone is doing it because it is important, and it feels good to be ready. Then, ask them what they are thinking about school and listen carefully to the answer. Show them you are listening by repeating back what they told you, and asking if you got it right. We all love being heard.
指出那些“返校”的广告、海报和弹出的窗口像是一种信号,这说明全社会都喜爱一年的这个时候。每个人都这样做就是因为它很重要,并且做好准备的感觉很棒。然后问问孩子们对学校是怎么想的,并且仔细倾听他们的回答。通过重复他们说的话,表示你在倾听,并且要问他们你是否理解了他们的意思。我们所有的人都喜欢被倾听。
2. Keep your own baggage about last year to yourself. Children are a lot better at ‘fresh starts’ than most grown-ups, given half a chance.
保持自己对去年的看法。孩子们在“新起点”上的感觉要比大部分成年人好得多,只要有一点点机会就可以。
3. Host or organize some social, play date or entertainment event with other class and schoolmates a week or two prior to school’s opening. 在开学前的一个星期或两个星期,组织一些与其他班级或校友的社交聚会、玩耍聚会,或者娱乐项目。
The less formal the better, and if it can include a trip to, or drive-by of, the school, it will help prime the communication pump if your child isn’t saying much. His or her mates can be great sounding boards.
越不正式越好,而且如果能包括一次徒步或驾车的小旅行,目的地是学校,恰巧你的孩子比较沉默,这次的旅行可能会给交流产生一次助力。他的或她的同伴能够产生最好的共鸣。
4. Calm down your own schedule around the time of school opening to be available (especially during decompression time). 在快开学的这段期间,可以使你的计划平静下来(尤其是在减压期间)。
Connecting with the teaching should be a high priority item during this period; kids feel keenly the presence – and absence – of this teaming up with the teacher on their behalf.
与老师联系是这段期间最重要的事情;与代表他们的老师联系可以让孩子们热切地感受到自己的存在感以及缺席感。
学校应该是掌握知识的地方,同样也是有关成长的地方,两者之中没有哪一个是特别容易做到的。
So telling kids ‘You’ll be fine’ doesn’t help them as much to hear as it does us to say it. Try “I’m so happy and proud you are grown up enough for school and getting yourself ready to go.” Enjoy!
所以告诉孩子们“你会很好”并不能像其他时候一样管用。试着这样说,“我很高兴并且以你为荣,你终于长大到要上学了,终于长大到要准备自己前进了。”好好享受吧!