1. Procrastination in the completion of tasks, especially ones you don’t like or want to do. 在完成任务的时候拖延，尤其是做你不喜欢或者不想做的事情。
What do you put off? Work deadlines? Phone calls? Laundry? Grocery shopping? Going to the doctor? Paying the bills?
你在拖延什么？拖延任务的最后期限？拖延打电话？洗衣服？买菜？看医生？还是付账单？
2. Habitual lateness. 习惯性迟到。
Are you late everywhere you go, or are there patterns to it? Always late to work but early for engagements with family and friends? Or is it the opposite?
你去的每个地方你都会迟到，或者这已经成为一种模式？是不是经常上班的时候迟到，与家人和朋友约会的时候就会早早到达？或者恰恰相反？
3. Sarcasm, cynicism, or flippancy. 讽刺挖苦、玩世不恭以及轻率无礼。
Within what context do you typically make sarcastic, cynical, or flippant remarks? Is it only with certain people or only within a certain context? In other words, is your hidden anger tied to a certain person, in terms of what she brings out in you? Or, is it more general, tied more to how you feel in specific situations as opposed to whom you are with?
在什么环境下你会典型的有讽刺挖苦、玩世不恭或者轻率无礼的行为？只是和某些人在一起或者只在某种环境下才这样吗？换句话说，就她带给你的感觉而言，是不是你隐藏的愤怒只和这些人有关？或者更经常的是，在特定的情况里你和同伴的意见相反，上述行为就会更多的跟你的感觉联系在一起？
4. Frequent sighing. 常常叹息。
You may not even realize you are doing this, so make a note to be mindful of how frequently you sigh, and within what context. Again, is it usually around a certain person, or is it more specific to an activity, thought, or situation?
可能甚至连你自己都没有意识到你正在叹息，所以请仔细注意一下你到底叹息的有多频繁，都是在什么情景下叹息。依旧，是否常常和某个人有关，或者在一种特定的活动、想法或者情境下叹息的次数更多？
5. Smiling while hurting. 受伤的同时微笑着。 As with frequent sighing, this may not be something you are particularly aware of. Next time you notice yourself smiling, though, check in with your head and heart. Does your expression match what you’re thinking and feeling inside?
正如常常叹息一样，你也许并没有意识到你这样做。下次的时候注意你自己的微笑，检查你的头脑和内心。你的表情和你的想法以及内心的感觉匹配吗？
6. Frequent disturbing or frightening dreams. 经常做烦人的或可怕的恶梦。这里的关键词是经常。
The keyword here is frequent. We all have bad dreams and nightmares now and then. But if they are persistent and you wake feeling scared and unrested, anger could be at the root.
我们偶尔都会有不好的梦或恶梦。但是如果经常这样，并且醒来之后感到恐惧和不安，那么生气可能就是其根源。
7. Excessive irritability over trifles. 在小事上过度易怒。
Road rage is a perfect example. Granted, there are times when other people’s driving habits can be dangerous and warrant a strong reaction. But when you “lose it” on the guy in front of you for missing the light or forgetting to turn on his blinker, the anger you’re feeling was already there, just waiting for an opportunity to erupt. The same is true of other minor incidents throughout any given day, from spilling your coffee to having trouble with your Internet connection.
路怒症就是一个很好的例子。的确，很多时候，他人的驾驶习惯很危险并且有必要采取一个强烈的回应。但是当你前面的家伙错过绿灯或者忘记打闪光灯时，你就会“失去理智”，你感觉到愤怒的情绪已经酝酿好了，只等待一个机会爆发出来。任何一天中的小事也会有同样的效果，从洒了你的咖啡到网络连接有问题，都会有隐藏的愤怒。
8. Facial tics, spasmodic foot movements, habitual fist clenching, and similar repeated physical acts done unintentionally. 面部痉挛、脚部痉挛运动、习惯性紧握拳头以及无意地重复做肢体动作。
Again, these are things you may or may not even be aware of. As with all the other symptoms of hidden anger on this list, simply be open to noticing their presence and mindful of when they occur.
再一次提到，这些事情你可能意识到了，甚至也可能没有意识到。正如已经列出的所有其他的隐怒症状一样，要简单地注意到它们的存在，以及仔细注意它们什么时候发生。
If any of these ring true for you, understand these are not behaviors to be cursed or vilified. Instead, consider them warning signs that anger may be present. They key is getting to the root of anger, which may or may not relate to a specific event. In fact, your anger is most likely tied to beliefs and relationships that span your lifetime.
如果你的身上真的存在这些警示，那么你要明白，不是要诅咒或诋毁这些行为。而是要思考这些警告信息，说明有可能存在愤怒情绪。关键是要找出愤怒的根源，这些根源有可能与具体的事件有关系，也可能没有关系。实际上，你的愤怒最可能与你的信念以及贯穿于生命中的人际关系有关。
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发表于 2015-9-6 11:38:53
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