Building resilience — the ability to adapt well to adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or even significant sources of stress — can help our children manage stress and feelings of anxiety and uncertainty.
建立韧性——韧性是一种可以更好地适应厄运、创伤、悲剧、威胁甚至是重大压力的能力——可以帮助我们的孩子处理压力、焦虑和不确定感。
然而，有韧性并不意味着孩子就不会经历困难或者悲伤。当我们遭受重大创伤和个人损失时，或当我们听说他人的损失、创伤时，情绪上的悲痛和伤心都是很平常的。
10 Tips for building resilience in children and teens
儿童和青少年时期建立韧性的10大建议
Teach your child how to make friends, including the skill of empathy, or feeling another's pain. Encourage your child to be a friend in order to get friends. Build a strong family network to support your child through his or her inevitable disappointments and hurts.
教会孩子如何交朋友，包括教授同情他人的技巧或者感受他人的痛苦的技巧。建立一个强大的家庭网络支持你的孩子，帮助他或她度过不可避免的失望和伤害。
At school, watch to make sure that one child is not being isolated.
在学校，确保孩子不会被孤立。
Although schools are being held accountable for performance on standardized tests, build in unstructured time during the school day to allow children to be creative.
尽管学校的建立是为了对考试成绩负责，但在学校的课余时间应该允许学生们发挥创造力。
5. Teach your child self-care
教会孩子照顾好自己
Make yourself a good example, and teach your child the importance of making time to eat properly, exercise and rest.
自己要树立一个良好的榜样，并且教给孩子们按时吃饭、锻炼、休息的重要性。
确保孩子有娱乐的时间，保证孩子不会把生活安排地慢慢当当以至于没有时间休息放松。
Caring for oneself and even having fun will help your child stay balanced and better deal with stressful times.
照顾好自己甚至娱乐将会帮助孩子保持平衡，并且能够更好的应对压力时刻。
6.Move toward your goals
向着你的目标前进
Teach your child to set reasonable goals and then to move toward them one step at a time.
教孩子树立合理的目标，然后朝着目标每次前进一小步。
At school, break down large assignments into small, achievable goals for younger children, and for older children, acknowledge accomplishments on the way to larger goals.
在学校，将巨大的任务分解成多个年纪小的孩子们能完成的小任务，对于年级大一点的孩子来说，就要承认他们在完成巨大任务过程中取得的成就。
Help your child learn to trust himself to solve problems and make appropriate decisions. Teach your child to see the humor in life, and the ability to laugh at one's self.
帮助你的孩子学习信任自己能够解决问题，能够做出正确的决定。教孩子看到生命中的幽默，学会自嘲。
At school, help children see how their individual accomplishments contribute to the wellbeing of the class as a whole.
在学校，帮助孩子们看到他们的个人成就是如何让为整个班级的优秀做出贡献的。
8. Keep things in perspective and maintain a hopeful outlook 全面的看待事情，保持乐观的态度
即使孩子面对非常痛苦的事情，也要帮助他们在更宽阔的背景下看待问题，用长远的眼光看待问题。
Although your child may be too young to consider a long-term look on his own, help him or her see that there is a future beyond the current situation and that the future can be good.
尽管孩子太小，只凭自己无法考虑长远，那么就帮助他或她越过当前问题看到未来，并且这个未来是个美好的未来。
积极乐观的人生观能够帮助孩子看到生活中美好的事物，在最艰难的时候也能前进。
In school, use history to show that life moves on after bad events.
在学校，运用历史来展示生活的进步都是经历过坏的事情的。
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