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4.     Identify Your Feelings
         确定你的感觉

Anger is an emotion that can be concealed and oftentimes confused with other emotions (i.e., jealousy, greed, embarrassment and being hurt).  Learn to sort through your emotions before acting out of impulse.  Identify what you're really feeling and address that emotion rather than mask it with anger.
愤怒是一种情绪，可以被隐藏起来，并且常常会和其他情绪（例如嫉妒、贪婪、尴尬和被伤害）混合在一起。在冲动的采取行动之前学习给你的情绪分类。确定你真正感觉到的是什么并且强调这个情绪，而不要用愤怒伪装。

5.     Think About Your Anger Differently
         从不同的角度思考你的愤怒

When things make us angry, we tend to distort how we think about the situation.  For example, you may misinterpret events, think the worst about everything, blame others or blow things out of proportion.  Being able to identify your negative thoughts and change those to more positive ones will help keep things in perspective.  Cognitive restructuring or changing how you think about the situation can change how you respond to it.
当有事情让我们生气时，我们的思考形式倾向于扭曲事实。比如，你会误解事实，把事情往糟糕的方面想，责怪别人或者夸大事实。要有能力确认你的消极想法以及将这些消极想法转化为更加积极的想法，这将会让你正确认识事物。调整认知或者改变思考事情的方式会转变你对事物的反应。

6.     Release Your Anger         
        释放你的愤怒

Find an outlet to release some steam.  Focus on deep breathing, shoot some hoops, hit a heavy bag, meditate, or just read a book.  It doesn't matter what you do to relax, just do it.  Make it a priority in your life.  
找一个宣泄口释放情绪。将注意力集中在深呼吸上、去打打篮球、击打沙袋、冥思或仅仅是阅读一本书。你做什么来放松并不重要，重要的是要去做。将其作为你生活中的优先事项。

7.     Transform Your Anger   
         转化你的愤怒
The final stage involves putting all of the steps together and synthesizing them into who you are and how you handle anger.  It's okay to move back and forth through various steps of the anger management cycle as you work through the transformation stage. As with any behavioral change, it's going to take time to transform your response to anger.  If you approach this change with dedication, discipline and determination you'll see some great results.  
最后一部分涉及到把所有的步骤整合在一起，将这些步骤综合处理成你是谁以及你如何处理愤怒。当你在转化愤怒的阶段尝试时，即使在愤怒处理循环上有很多步徘徊不前也没关系。因为就像改变任何行为一样，转变你对愤怒的反应也需要花费很长时间。如果你下定决心、努力训练要去改变，那么你将会看到一些很棒的成果。

"For every minute you're angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness" ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
“每生气一分钟，你就会失去60秒的快乐。”拉尔夫•沃尔多•埃莫森”

It is important to note that anger may be associated with other mental health disorders.
还有很重要的一点值得注意，愤怒与其他的心理健康障碍有关。

9zjuzilaoshi

谢谢分享。{:soso_e179:}{:soso_e177:}

psy吴小文

学习并做笔记，与最近发生的事件联结，心理平静了许多。谢谢你的分享{:soso_e163:}

司马如花

psy吴小文 发表于 2015-12-12 20:54
学习并做笔记，与最近发生的事件联结，心理平静了许多。谢谢你的分享 ...

哈哈，能给你带来一些帮助我也很开心

大头怪物

感谢分享，很有参考价值

pigeon

感谢分享，学习了！