You might need to bring in the reinforcements, however. Especially if your child is prone to answering "Good" or "Fine" without elaborating (ahem!), day in and day out, you'll need a good followup. The younger the child, the less they may be able to think over the whole day in an organized-enough manner to pick out some key details and start forming a narrative about it. And the older they are, the less likely they are to immediately open up about what might be a whole universe of complex emotions and social happenings.
但是不管怎么样，你都需要进行一些强化。特别是，如果你的孩子倾向于回答“很好”或者“还可以”而没有具体的解释（咳咳！要引起注意了），日复一日地这样，那么你就需要跟进了。孩子越小，可能他们就没有能力以一种有条理的方式思考整件事情，无法挑选出一些关键的信息，他们会开始形成一个对事件的描述模式。孩子越大，他们就不可能立即敞开心扉表达对整件事情怀有的复杂情绪，和述说社交方面发生了什么事情。
1) What's one word you'd use to describe today?
你会用一个什么样的词语描述今天呢？
2) Did anything surprise you today?
今天有发生什么令你很惊讶的事情吗？
3) How was today different than yesterday?
今天和昨天有什么不同？
4) What did your teacher talk about most today?
今天你的老师说的最多的话是什么？
5) Who did you spend the most time with today?
今天你和谁待在一起的时间最长？
Of course, the older your child, the more nuanced you can get. Having daily discussions about when they helped or were helped by others, what worried them, what made them feel proud, what made them happy/sad/angry/scared or what they learned academically are all great things to add to a regular dinner-hour lowdown. But as you're first getting in the door, the questions above can prove fruitful to start laying the foundation for deeper conversations-- even better than "How was your day." Unless, of course, you don't mind one-hundred and eighty-one straight utterances of "Fine."
当然，孩子越大，你得到的细微差别就越多。在日常讨论的时候可以问问他们，什么时候帮助过别人或什么时候被别人帮助过，他们最担心的是什么，什么会使他们感觉很骄傲，什么会使他们开心/伤心/生气/恐惧，或者他们今天又学到了什么新的知识，可以将这些很棒的问题加入到日常饭桌的谈话中。但是如果你开始入门，利用上面提到的问题开始为一个较深的谈话奠定基础，就会证明是富有成果的——甚至比“今天过得怎么样还要好。”当然，除非你不介意问一百回中有80回的回答是“还可以”。
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