Antecedent: the buildup of events, the contributing factors, and sometimes the triggers that lead to your child’s behavior. 前因：事件的积累，贡献因素，以及一些时候导致孩子这种行为的诱因
Behavior: the response your child has in reaction to the antecedent. 行为：孩子对前因的反应
Consequence: what happens after the behavior that makes it more or less likely the behavior will occur again. 后果：在这个行为之后会发生什么，在将来这个行为是更容易还是更不容易让再次发生
为了处理行为问题，父母们首先应该做一个深呼吸，平静的呼吸，然后围绕这些ABC模式组织自己的思维。
1. First, consider those antecedents, or triggers, that led up to the behavior. There are a million possibilities, of course, but here are some common age-based examples:
首先，思考导致这些行为的前因，或者诱因。会有一百万种可能性，当然，这里也有一些基于某个年龄段的共同例子：
Toddlers:If she’s having a tantrum, consider whether she’s hungry, tired or frustrated—by far, the three biggest antecedents of tantrums.
幼儿：如果她发脾气，思考她是否饿了、累了或者愤怒了——到目前为止，这三项是幼儿发脾气的最大诱因。
School-Aged Kids: When he pushes his brother, figure out whether it happened in trying to get to something first or if he did it out of anger.
学龄儿童：当他推了他的弟弟，思考一下是否是因为他尝试率先得到某物或出于愤怒才这么做的。
Teens: If she starts mouthing off to you, look around and see if that tends to happen more in a particular setting or when a specific friend is around.
2. Next, focus on the specific actions you want to change:
接下来，把注意力放在你想改变的具体行为上：
Toddlers: If she grabs toys and doesn’t let anyone else at the playdate use them, focus on the specific actions involved in sharing: handing items to someone else, looking around to see the other toy choices nearby, saying please and thank you.
School-Aged Kids: If he throws his hands up in frustration every night during homework time, keep the attention on putting in good effort – for the moment, don’t focus on the assignment’s grade.
Teens: Rolled eyes and slammed doors just seem to be ubiquitous with teens. While you may not be able to get them to immediately change their attitude (which is developmentally appropriate, by the way), you can insist they “try that again” and not door-slam or eye-roll.
青少年：翻白眼和猛摔门似乎在青少年中很常见。你可能没有办法使他们马上改变态度（顺便说一下，这种态度是指慢慢培养起来的感激之情），你可以坚持要求他们“再尝试做一次（这里指好的行为）”，并且不要猛摔门和翻白眼。
3. Then, choose an appropriate consequence. Many parents go straight to punishments, but there are many other potential consequences that influence whether the behavior is repeated.
然后，选择一个恰当的结果。许多家长直接惩罚，但是这样有许多潜在的后果，这会影响该行为是否重复发生。
Play off their tendency to copy-cat by role-modeling good behavior. If she mimics something you don’t want her to, own up to it, explain that you don’t want her doing it, and then make sure you stop doing it!
通过示范良好的行为让他们效仿。如果她模仿了一些你不想让她模仿的行为，承认事实，解释你不想让她这样做，然后保证自己以后也不这样做了！
Use when/then statements: “When you put away all these toys, then we can go to the park.” This is both an easily-followed direction, as well as a positive reinforcement for good behavior.
使用当……时/然后 的陈述方式：“当你把所有的这些玩具放起来的时候，我们就出去公园。”这不仅是一个容易的方法，同时也可以积极的加强良好的行为。
Enforce limits, rules and expectations consistently, so he knows what happens when he behaves a certain way.
强制限制，始终坚持规则和期望，这样他就会知道当他这样做的时候会发生什么。
Has she ever had a tantrum in an empty room? Waited to roll her eyes until you’re looking? The point of these behaviors is attention. Sometimes ignoring is your best tactic.
她曾经在空的房间里使性子吗？等着翻白眼直到你看见？这些行为的意义就是引起你的注意。有时候忽视就是你最好的策略。
不要屈服！这样只会让你重复不好的行为。
If you instill a punishment or negative consequence, make sure it’s immediate, specific, and within the context of the behavior you’re trying to stop. Don’t overdo it just because you’re mad. 如果你慢慢灌输一个惩罚或者消极的后果，确保它是即时的、具体的，属于你想阻止的行为之内的。不要仅仅因为你生气而做过头。
Praise good behavior whenever you see it, because the ABCs apply there, too. When your child gets positive reinforcement as a consequence for doing something right, he or she is more likely to do that again!
称赞好的行为，无论你什么时候看见，因为ABC的模式也可以在这里应用。当你的孩子做了一些正确的事情之后得到了积极的加强，他或她更可能会再次那样做！