Reflect on the links between your feelings and what you think, do, and say.
仔细思考你的感觉与你的想法、行为以及说出的话之间的联系
Consciously spell out your values and goals, and
有意识地说出你的价值和目标，以及
Learn to laugh at yourself. Nothing shines a light on who and what we are like self-directedhumor.
学会自嘲。没有什么比自嘲式的幽默更能揭示自己是谁以及我们是什么了。
Self-Control
自我控制
想提高你的自控能力吗？
Practice managing your impulsive feelings and distressing emotions, even if you only use simple techniques like counting to ten before responding.
练习管理冲动的感觉和痛苦的情绪，即使你只能使用简单的技巧，比如在回答之前数十个数字。
Be willing to admit your own mistakes, even if you have to work on it, and
愿意承认你自己的错误，即使必须继续这样做，并且
Build trust through reliability and authenticity.
通过可靠性和真实性建立信任感
Motivation
动力
Operate from hope of success rather than fear of failure.
出于对成功的希望而不是对失败的害怕
Actively search for information that will reduce your uncertainty, and
积极的搜寻信息将会帮助你减少不确定感，并且
Search for ways to do better and improve your performance.
搜寻能让你做得更好的方法，并且改善你的表现
Social Awareness
社会认知
想要更好的理解别人吗？
Learn to be attentive to emotional cues, really listen well and learn how to “read” body language.
学习留心情绪信号，能真正地很好的倾听，以及学习如何“读懂”肢体语言
Be willing to recognize people’s strengths, accomplishments, and development.
乐于认识别人的优点、成就和发展
Respect and relate well to people from varied backgrounds, including being understandingof diverse worldviews and being sensitive to group differences.
尊重来自不同背景的人，并且与他们联系，包括了解多种世界观，对不同人群之间的差异保持敏感
Social Skills
社交技能
最后，为了影响和得到他人的尊重，
Foster open communication and stay receptive to bad news as well as good.
推动开放式的谈话，能接受好消息，也同样能接受坏消息
Cultivate and maintain extensive informal networks which will help you spot and nurture opportunities for collaboration.
培养并维持广阔的信息网，这将会帮助你发现以及孕育合作的机会
Don’t forget to encourage debate and open discussion in your communication, and
在你的交流中，不要忘记鼓励争论和开放式的讨论，以及
Model the behavior you expect from others.
期望别人做出什么样的行为，你自己首先作典范
Besides working on yourself, you need to reach out to others. This means working on receiving and giving emotional and social support.
除了致力于自己的发展，还要帮助别人。这就意味着你要致力于接受并且给予（他人）情绪支持和社交支持
Emotional and Social Support
情绪支持和社交支持
你可以抱怨没有朋友、家人或社交生活。
My guess is you already know that’s not going to change anything. So look to build social support groups that will allow you to express your feelings and emotions to peers who have been or are currently in the same position or have common interests.
我猜你已经知道，抱怨并不会改变什么。所以寻求建立社交支持的小组，这样你才能向同伴表达你的感觉和情绪，这些同伴已经或者正处于相同的境地，或者你们之间有着共同的利益。