Being Rejected in childhood actually changes brain wiring in ways that make you process the world around you a little differently (i.e., do you think that others are being mean to you, when they are not?), and you may even care more about external validation (i.e., seeking praise and reassurance) than intrinsic reinforcement.
儿童时期做一个被拒绝型的孩子，实际上会改变大脑与外界的连接，大脑处理过的世界与真实的世界有一些不同（比如，你觉得他人对你很苛刻吗？但实际上他们并没有如此），你甚至会更介意外界的认可（比如，你会寻求称赞和肯定）。
Being Rejected even has triggered dormant DNA in your cells to increase your risk for inflammatory disease later in life.
被拒绝型的人，甚至会触发细胞中蛰伏的DNA，中年时会增加引发炎症性疾病的风险。
Were you Controversial? If so (and if you were also physically attractive), you may have grown up to be one the dominant, high status adolescents in high school (think The Plastics, or A-listers) who bullied others to stay at the top of the teenage food chain.
你属于争议型的人吗？如果是（并且恰好你的外表很吸引人），你长大之后进入高中，很可能成为一个地位很高的青少年领导者（想想那些整形塑胶人或一线明星），这些人为了自己能够站在青少年食物链的顶端常常侮辱他人。
Were you Neglected? Surprisingly, many of these kids turn out to be pretty OK. Neglected kids are most likely to switch categories as they grow up. A Neglected 4th grader is just as likely to be Neglected, Accepted, or Rejected by high school.
你属于被忽略型吗？令人惊讶的是，事实证明许多这类型的孩子发展得还不错。被忽略型的孩子在成长过程中，很可能转化成其他类型。
四年级的时候一个被忽略型的孩子，在高中的时候有可能还是被忽略型，或者转变为被接受型或被拒绝型。
If you playing by yourself was your own choice, or if you were simply not very interested in others, then you may have been completely content with forging your own path as you grew up. If you were Neglected because you always felt too apprehensive to approach others, however, then there is a good chance you have continued to experience significant anxiety throughout your life.
如果你选择独来独往，或者你单纯地对其他人不感兴趣，那么你可能完全满意自己的成长道路。如果你是因为忧心忡忡无法接近他人而被忽略，那么你很可能在这一生中都会经历明显的焦虑。
Research suggests that dating was not an easy experience for you, and you may have even chosen a career path that allowed you to minimize social situations that were especially scary (public speaking, recruiting, in-person sales).
研究表明，约会对于你来说也不是一件容易的事情，甚至你很可能会选择一条事业道路来减少社交情形，尤其是那些特别吓人的社交情形（比如公开演讲，招聘，当面销售）。
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