Therapists are good at listening and they do plenty of that.They try to stay neutral and let people arrive at their own truths.
咨询师们都很善于倾听，并且这样做的次数多到他们已经数不清。他们尝试着保持中立，并且让人表现出自己的真实。
We all have defences: ways in which we protect ourselves from hurt or danger by changing the subject, making a joke, going silent, storming out of the room, acting angry, blaming other people. We use a range of behaviours to avoid things that frighten us, that threaten to humiliate us.
我们都有防御心理：常常以转移话题、开个玩笑、保持沉默、冲出房间、发泄愤怒、责怪他人的方式来保护自己不受伤害，远离危险。我们运用一系列的行为回避那些我们害怕的事物，和那些有可能使我们丢脸的事物。
This is what the young person most needs the therapist to understand, because only once a defence has been understood – really understood – can it ever be amended or changed.
这就是青少年最需要心理咨询师明白的，因为只有防御行为被理解时——真正的理解——它才可以被修复或被改变。