艰难的时候也常常是孩子们认识自己最多的时候。 Help your child take a look at how whatever he is facing can teach him "what he is made of."
帮助孩子看看，不管他面对的是什么，这些事情是如何教会他“他是什么样子的”。
At school, consider leading discussions of what each student has learned after facing down a tough situation.
在学校，考虑组织一场讨论，讲一讲每个学生在经历过困难的境况后学习到了什么。
10. Accept that change is part of living 接受变化是生活中的一部分
对儿童和青少年来说，变化是很吓人的。
Help your child see that change is part of life and new goals can replace goals that have become unattainable.
帮助孩子看到变化是生活中的一部分，新的目标能够代替那些不可能实现的目标。
In school, point out how students have changed as they moved up in grade levels and discuss how that change has had an impact on the students.
在学校，要指出学生们每升一级的时候发生了怎样的变化，并且讨论这些变化是怎样影响这些学生的。