The good news is that resilience isn't something you're born with or not - the skills of resilience can be learned. Resilience - the ability to adapt well in the face of hard times; disasters like hurricanes, earthquakes or fires; tragedy; threats; or even high stress - is what makes some people seem like they've "got bounce" while others don't.
好消息是恢复能力并不是与生俱来的——这种能力是可以后天学习的。恢复力——面对艰难时期也有很好的适应能力；比如一些灾难飓风、地震、或火灾；悲剧、威胁或高级别压力——这看起来就像是他们可以自我恢复而其他人却做不到。
10条建议帮助你培养恢复力
什么样的建议可以帮助你学习恢复力呢？当你运用这些建议时，请记住每一个人的恢复方式都不同——对你起作用的建议不一定也对你朋友起作用。
1. Get Together.
与他人在一起。
Talk with your friends and, yes, even with your parents. Understand that your parents may have more life experience than you do, even if it seems they never were your age.
与你的朋友交谈，甚至是与你的父母交谈。即便你的父母和你所处的时代不同，他们的生活经验也比你丰富。
2. Cut Yourself Some Slack. When something bad happens in your life, the stresses of whatever you're going through may heighten daily stresses.
放松自己。当你的生活中发生一些糟糕的事情时，无论你正承受着何种压力都有可能增加日常压力。因为荷尔蒙和身体的变化，你的情绪可能已经变得面目全非；悲剧或创伤中的不确定性会使这些转变更为极端。对这些情绪做好准备，温和地对待你自己，也温和地对待朋友。
4. Stick To The Program. 坚持既定计划。
Spending time in high school or on a college campus means more choices; so let home be your constant.
花时间上高中或者上大学意味着有更多的选择；所以让你的家成为永恒的避风港。
5. Take Care Of Yourself. Be sure to take of yourself - physically, mentally and spiritually. And get sleep.
照顾好你自己。确定照顾好自己——身体上，心理上，和精神上。保证睡眠。
If you don't, you may be more grouchy and nervous at a time when you have to stay sharp. There's a lot going on, and it's going to be tough to face if you're falling asleep on your feet.
如果不这样做，当必须保持敏锐的时候你可能会有更多的抱怨和紧张。未来还有许多事情要面对，如果你不能保证充足的睡眠，那么后面的事情将会变得更加艰难。
6.Take Control. Even in the midst of tragedy, you can move toward goals one small step at a time.
控制。即使处在不利境地，你也能够朝着目标每次迈出一小步。
在十分困难的时候，起床去上学可能是你唯一能做的事情，但是如果能完成这些就可以说帮上大忙了。
Bad times make us feel out of control - grab some of that control back by taking decisive action.
糟糕的时期总是让我们感觉无法掌控——通过做一些决定性的行动来重新获得一部分掌控权。
7. Express Yourself. 表现你自己。
悲剧能够激起一种对抗的情绪，但是有些时候，对他人说出自己的感觉是十分困难的。
If talking isn't working, do something else to capture your emotions like start a journal, or create art.
如果倾诉不管用，那么就做一些其他能够捕捉你情绪的事情，比如开启一段旅行，或者创造一种艺术品。
8. Help Somebody. 帮助他人。
Nothing gets your mind off your own problems like solving someone else's.
再也没有比帮助他人更能使你暂时忘却自己烦恼的事情了。试着在社区或者是学校做志愿者，打扫屋子或公寓，又或者帮着朋友做作业。
Learn some relaxation techniques, whether it's thinking of a particular song in times of stress, or just taking a deep breath to calm down.
学习一些放松的技巧，你是否会在紧张的时候想起一首特别的歌，或者深呼吸几次冷静下来。
Think about the important things that have stayed the same, even while the outside world is changing. When you talk about bad times, make sure you talk about good times as well.
想一下重要的东西依然保持不变，即使外部世界在变化。当你谈论困苦的时光时，也要保证谈论那些美好的时光。
Try to limit the amount of news you take in, whether it's from television, newspapers or magazines, or the Internet. Watching a news report once informs you; watching it over and over again just adds to the stress and contributes no new knowledge.
尝试限制你接受的新闻数量，不管它们是来自于电视、报纸、杂志还是网络。一旦一个新闻提醒了你，一遍一遍地重播就会给你带来压力，而且还不会有任何新的想法。