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标题: 咨讯：个性互补还是相似的恋人最幸福（中英文） [打印本页]

作者: Emma 时间: 2016-3-6 19:38
标题: 咨讯：个性互补还是相似的恋人最幸福（中英文）

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A new study conducted by relationship researchers from Wellesley and the University of Kansas says that opposites don't attract. In reality, people are attracted to others who have the same views and values as themselves.

韦尔斯利学院和勘萨斯大学的关系研究人员进行的一项新的研究表明，（个性）异性并不相互吸引。在现实中，人们容易被那些有着相同观点和价值观的人所吸引。

The study, which was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, found a “paradigm shift” in how we view our relationships. In order to discover how important similarity was in forming relationships, professor Angela Bahns and her team of researchers approached over 1,500 random pairs （romantic couples, friends, and acquaintances） and surveyed them on their values, prejudices, attitudes and personality traits. In fact, future friends or partners are actually similar “at the outset of their social connection.”In other words, people had similar views on life even if they had just met.

这项发表于《人格与社会心理学》杂志上的研究发现，我们在看待人际关系时发生了“范式转移”。为了研究相似性在建立人际关系时的重要性，安吉拉·巴恩斯教授和她的研究团队随机找来了1500多对情侣、朋友和熟人，调查了他们的价值观，偏见，态度和性格特征。事实上，“一开始从他们的社会关系”来看，未来的朋友或伴侣实际上可以很相似。换句话说，即使刚刚认识彼此，他们对生活的看法也会是相似的。

Here are some other reasons why opposites don’t attract, according to science and experts:

以下就是科学和专家研究出来的异质性格的人不会相互吸引的一些其他原因：

1. People With Similar Personalities Are Happier In Their Relationships

性格相似的人在交往中更幸福

A 2014 study of 174 couples conducted by researchers Nathan Hudson and Chris Fraley found that couples who were more alike in personality were more satisfied in their relationships than those who were different.

2014年，研究人员奈登·哈德森和克里斯·雷利对174对夫妇进行研究发现，个性相似的夫妻比个性不同的夫妻更幸福美满。

2. People Who Have Great Relationships Share Similar Backgrounds

相处融洽的人有相似的背景

As Sean Horan assistant professor in relationship communication at DePaul University told CNN in 2014, people who have really good relationships have similar backgrounds, values and attitudes about things they like and dislike.

2014年，德保罗大学的人际沟通方面的助理教授肖恩·霍兰在CNN说过，相处融洽的人有着相似的背景、价值观以及对他们喜欢和不喜欢的东西持有相似的态度。

3. Similarity Is The Key To A Long-Lasting Relationship

相似性对长期持久的关系至关重要

A 2013 study of eHarmony’s Compatibility Matching System found that even though people with opposite personalities may be attracted to each other at first, the key to a long-lasting relationship is similarity.

2013年，“e和谐”婚恋网站一项兼容配对系统研究发现，尽管性格相反的人可能最开始会相互吸引，但一段长久关系的关键还是两人的相似性。

作者: 凡尘荼靡 时间: 2016-3-7 01:03
谢谢分享

作者: yanzi 时间: 2016-3-7 21:33
不错谢谢分享！

作者: verylove1 时间: 2016-3-10 08:29
好有道理

作者: Emma 时间: 2016-3-13 13:01