标题: 不要对患有焦虑障碍症的人说这四句话 下 [打印本页] 作者: 司马如花 时间: 2015-11-13 17:26 标题: 不要对患有焦虑障碍症的人说这四句话 下 4. You're right, that could happen.
你是对的，那种事情会发生。
Try to avoid saying anything that will feed into their fears. For instance, if you have a friend with a phobia of flying, do not engage them with an account of the terrible plane crash that you heard about on the news. This one might seem like a no-brainer, but unfortunately I have seen this kind of thing occur. Instead, try to validate their feelings. Validating a person's feelings does not mean that you are agreeing with them. For instance, rather than saying, "You're right if you go to that party people might judge you," a more validating response would be, "It sounds like the thought of going to the party is making you feel anxious. You are worried that people might judge you. It seems like this is really upsetting you."
试着避免说任何会使他们流泪的话。比如，如果你的一个朋友有飞行恐惧症，那么就不要给他们讲述你从新闻上听到的惨烈的飞机坠毁事件。这种行为就好像不经过大脑，但是很不幸，我曾经见过这种事情发生。取而代之，试着确认他们的感觉。确认他们的感觉并不是意味着你要赞同他们。比如，不要说“你说得对，如果你去那个聚会，别人就会评判你，”最好说一些更肯定的回复。“听起来参加聚会的想法使你感到焦虑。你担心别人可能会评判你。这件事似乎真的令你心烦意乱。”
By avoiding the use of stigmatizing statements and approaching those struggling with compassion, you can help to eradicate some of the shame that is associated with having a mental health diagnosis. Studies show that shame and fear of judgment is one reason that people with mental illnesses often avoid (link is external) seeking treatment. This is why providing support and compassion to someone who is struggling with an anxiety disorder is so crucial. Heather Rayne, a blogger, summed it up best when she stated,
通过避免使用污蔑性句子以及用同情心引发内心挣扎，你可以帮助他们消除一些心理健康诊断带来的羞耻感。研究显示，评判的羞耻感和害怕是患有心理病人常常避免寻找治疗的一个原因。这就是为什么对有焦虑障碍症的人提供支持和同情很关键的原因。
"Living with anxiety and/or depression can feel like constantly trying to climb out of a deep, muddy hole with an armful of sandbags. Everything seems so much more difficult - even getting out of bed in the morning can be a monumental feat. The simplest tasks can be a dreaded challenge. Nobody wants to feel this way. And they are not doing this TO anyone. It is happening TO them and sadly, others are caught in the crossfire. But eventually the bullets will stop flying, the smoke will clear and blissful, fulfilling lives and relationships could appear just beyond the horizon. Together (link is external), it can be reached."
带着焦虑以及(或)抑郁生活,就像胳膊上挂满沙袋，并且不断地尝试着爬出一个很深、满是泥巴的洞。每一件事情似乎都很难——即使是清晨起床都能成为迈出具有重要意义的一步。最简单的任务都能成为一个可怕的挑战。没有人想有这样的感觉。并且他们也不会为别人这样做。这些事情只是发生在他们身上，并且很不幸，其他人都陷入重重麻烦中。但是最终子弹会停止飞行，烟雾也会散去，而且幸福充、满意义的生活和人际关系会出现在地平线上。大家一起努力，这个目标会实现的。