I could not agree more with the saying, "It is easier to build a child, than repair an adult."
“培养一个孩子比纠正一个成年人容易得多。”我非常赞同这句话。
The acronym, ACCEPTS, from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) provides a powerful guide for helping children and teens calm down and problem-solve. ACCEPTS provides 7 valuable coping skills.
ACCEPTS是个缩略词，来源于辩证行为疗法。为了帮助儿童和青少年学会冷静下来和解决问题，辩证行为疗法提供了一个强有力的指导。ACCEPTS提供了七个很有价值的克服困难的技能。
For children with persistent and/or serious emotional struggles, it is recommended that they see a qualified mental health care professional. That said, in many cases the ACCEPTS skills below can be adapted by parents for coaching children and teens on how to calm down and solve problems. And, don't underestimate how valuable this model is for adults as well! Here is what ACCEPTS stands for:
对于那些执着的孩子以及/或是有严重情绪挣扎的孩子来说，我推荐他们向合格的心理保健中心寻求专业的帮助。那就是说，许多案例都可以采取以下方法，来帮助家长们教育儿童和青少年如何冷静以及如何解决问题。并且，不要低估这种工具，它对成年人也同样具有价值！以下就是ACCEPTS所代表的事情：
Activities: Encourage and challenge, in a supportive manner, children and teens to engage in exercise or hobbies, go to events, text, call, or visit a friend, play computer games, go walking, work, play sports, go out and have fun.
活动：鼓励与挑战，以一种支持的方式，使儿童和青少年们投入到锻炼或爱好中，参加聚会、发短信、打电话或者拜访一个朋友，玩电子游戏、散步、工作、进行体育运动，走出家门寻找乐趣。
Contributing: Children can enhance their self-esteem when they contribute to someone, do volunteer work, give something to someone else, or make something nice for someone else.
贡献：当他们对某人做出贡献、做一些志愿工作、给予他人一些东西或者对他人做一些友善的事情时，孩子们就会增强他们的自尊感。
Comparison: By helping children become more mindful of the struggles of others who face even greater adversity, they can learn to see their own problems in a less reactive way.
对比：让孩子们更加留心那些挣扎在更大逆境中的人们，通过这种方式可以让他们以一种较为轻微的反应方式学着明白他们自身的问题。
Emotions: Ask children empathy and feeling-oriented questions to help them recognize and differentiate between ranging emotions and to safely process them.
情绪：问孩子一些能够引起共鸣和依赖直觉的问题，帮助他们认识并区分整理情绪以及安全地处理情绪。
Pushing Away: When they feel overwhelmed, children can use the distraction skills of pushing away upsetting feelings and situations by leaving them for a while. Kids can learn to build an imaginary wall between themselves and stressful events. One way I do this with teens is to create an imaginary worry box. For younger children, I suggest a recipe box that can be personally decorated or a small cardboard box that can be decorated as well. They learn to place the thoughts or memories in the box so they can be left in there.
推开：学习过一段时间之后，当孩子们感觉到不知所措时，他们可以使用这种分散注意力的技巧将这些苦恼的感觉和不快的情形推开。孩子们可以学着在自己和压力事件之间建立一堵假象的墙。我和青少年们这样做的一个方式就是创造一个想象的担忧盒子。对于减小的儿童来说，我建议使用一个秘密纸盒，可以被自己任意装饰，或者使用一个小纸箱，同样可以被随意装饰。他们学着将想法或记忆装进纸盒子里，这样他们就能将烦恼留在那里。
Thoughts: Children can control their thoughts by counting to 10, identifying colors in a painting or trees or windows, doing puzzles, reading, and watching TV shows.
想法：孩子们可以通过数到10、辨别画中或树上或窗外的颜色来控制自己的想法，也可以做字谜、做阅读以及看电视秀。
Sensations: Engaging kinesthetic awareness can help kids cope as well. This can include briefly holding something cold in their hand, squeezing a rubber ball very hard, snapping a rubber band, or listening to softer or louder music.
知觉：投入到肌肉运动知觉意识的活动中也可以帮助孩子们应对压力。这包括简单地在手里拿一些冷的东西、用力地挤橡胶球、咬橡胶带子、听一些轻音乐或者响亮的音乐。
